Redefining Friendship

As I’ve grown older the definition of friendship has changed. I have generally been very careful with titles because of the responsibility and accountability that (should) come with them.

Some people have different categories of friendships such as work, church and school, but I’ve always thought that friends are people who are apart of your life in all aspects and fit multiple classes.

Throughout the years, I’ve always admired friendships that are now commonly classified as #SquadGoals. Those such as

·         Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda: Sex and the City

·         Joan, Maya, Lynn and Toni: Girlfriends

·         Rose, Dorothy and Blanche: Golden Girls

In the past, I built a wall around friendships and had strict guidelines for those who earned the title. In instances when coworkers invited me out for drinks or inquired of my personal life I would often make excuses or change the conversation. I would think to myself “we’re coworkers not friends and that’s not your business.” It wasn’t until I moved to Mississippi for grad school that I began to see friendship differently mostly because of the relationships I built with individuals who are now special friends.

One morning during my daily devotion I was reminded of the friend we have in Jesus and reasoned that if we can be friends with Christ there should be no other barriers to friendship.

I once thought friends are people who are a constant part of your journey whether big or small no matter where it leads. People who are more concerned with your success and happiness than how it compares to theirs. Individuals who are genuinely able to be themselves around you whether good or bad without fear of judgement: those you can laugh or cry with, listen or advise, celebrate or mourn, diet or binge, splurge or save, agree or disagree. I’ve learned those things don’t come with friendship package.

Moving to California and being so far away from home has given me opportunities to reflect on the relationships I cherish the most. Many defend friendships that aren’t nurtured as regularly as others. Often when sayings like “we always pick up where we left off” are referenced.  What I have realized is that there are levels of friendship that vary during different stages of life but no limits to who can be classified as a friend. Although I have amazing friendships, I know that I blocked others along the way.

Last week at work we celebrated Thanksgiving with a “Friendsgiving” potluck, which allowed me to show gratitude to God for the amazing friends of my past and present who have added to my journey.

I’ve recognized that relationships I once admired on TV were an active part of my life, and my true vision of #SquadGoals includes Trent, Brent, Jasmine (yes me) and Jaslyn. I have my parents to thank for that, because my siblings have always been the best friends I could ask for. They have been much more. Aside from them, I’m truly grateful for all other friendships I’ve developed over the years at every level, short-term and long-term from those who I speak with on a weekly basis to those who I interact with once or twice a year. Don’t block friendships or miss an opportunity because everyone isn’t at the highest level; cherish those who are. Good friends make great memories! 

What is your definition of friendship and what comes with it? Share below.

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Jasmine C. Tate

Feeling Relief

A lot has happened in the three weeks since my last post. My job search process ended and a new chapter of my life began as I moved across the country to Southern California. I accepted a position with the Inland Empire United Way and started my career on the west coast.

Aside from the procedural paperwork and staff introductions, I hit the ground running in my first week with meetings and preparations for an annual fundraising event.

While searching for openings I was focused more on the position than location, but now the meaningful services and resources provided for those in need have overpowered everything else.

Flexible work hours, casual Fridays and my office are some of my favorite perks, but the greatest relief of gaining employment is not having to spend another weekday seeking opportunities. I am proud to be a part of an organization that truly makes an impact in lives and communities.

The scene outside my front door changed from cows to mountains overnight, and I am loving the view. Stay tuned for updates on my journey and efforts to contribute to a world where we all #LiveUnited with pride.

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Jasmine C. Tate 

Meeting Bay

I'm extremely grateful for Bill and his invitation to join the community. Bill is the founder and CCO of the IW Group, Inc. and started the National Millennial Community. 

I'm extremely grateful for Bill and his invitation to join the community. Bill is the founder and CCO of the IW Group, Inc. and started the National Millennial Community. 

A small selection of the National Millennial Community at Spitfire offices. 

A small selection of the National Millennial Community at Spitfire offices. 

Chelsea Eytel, D'Anthony Jackson and I stopped for a photo while touring the Golden State Warriors' Headquarters and representing The University of Southern Mississippi.

Chelsea Eytel, D'Anthony Jackson and I stopped for a photo while touring the Golden State Warriors' Headquarters and representing The University of Southern Mississippi.

Thanks to the Warriors' organization for providing memorabilia from the 2015 Championship Title. 

Thanks to the Warriors' organization for providing memorabilia from the 2015 Championship Title. 

Although we had a pretty busy schedule, we took a short break by the bridge.  

Although we had a pretty busy schedule, we took a short break by the bridge.  

The eBay campus was the last stop on our tours of the Bay.

The eBay campus was the last stop on our tours of the Bay.

From the Golden Gate Bridge to the home of the Golden State Warriors, last week’s visits in the San Francisco Bay Area exceeded my expectations and renewed my excitement about the start of my career. Networking earned me an exceptional opportunity to become a member of the National Millennial Community, a group of individuals united with a common goal to join and change the conversation about our generation.

Members of the community have unique connections to companies and individuals that might not otherwise be accessible. While in San Francisco, my colleagues and I participated in meetings with several executives from businesses including the Verizon Innovation Center, Shift Communications, Wells Fargo, Spitfire, the Golden State Warriors, eBay and Google, Inc.

Serving as consultants on many stops, we gained exposure to diverse perspectives and a platform to share our personal positions. Although I knew I would enjoy the trip before I boarded my flight, during each visit I felt as if the tours were planned and organized specifically around my career interests including executives in my dream job (community relations’ director) and industry (professional sports).

“This business does take you places,” said Eric Bresler, Executive Director of the Golden State Warriors’ Chase Center. “Our industry keeps you young, keeps you moving and keeps you motivated.”

But only two percent of applicants are hired according to Jennifer Cabalquinto, Golden State Warriors’ Chief Financial Officer, which means “you have to have applicable skills.” Good news followed as she assured us that there are several doors into the building of your career.

Inspiration continued as we engaged with a young professionals’ panel of Google employees who offered motivation and realistic expectations.

Of course, you have to “put in the work to get there.”

          - Brendan Chan, Program Manager | Customer Experience and Strategic Programs

“You should follow your dreams, but do it responsibly.”

          - Tiffany Siu, Product Marketing Manager | Google Analytics 360 Suite

 “Bad experiences lead to great learning and happiness is the guiding principal” [of a fulfilled life and successful career.]

          - Mona Weng, Global Business Development Manager | Waze

“You learn a lot more when you’re learning together.”

          - Alice, Web Solutions Engineer

Remember you have 30-50 years to start and maintain a prosperous career. Forget about work-life balance. It doesn’t matter if you’re working at 5 a.m. or 10 p.m. if you love what you do. After all, work is part of life. 

Have you met Bay? If not, now is a great time to travel as airline prices decrease. Be sure to catch Steve Silver’s Beach Blanket Babylon Production; it’s a very entertaining show.

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Jasmine C. Tate 

Mastering Effective Communication

Many public relations professionals, myself included, live their lives by lists. Nothing beats the satisfaction of another red check mark in my planner. Our first “Real World Read” combines personal experiences, motivational success stories and a simple list of do’s and don’ts to connect the dots of effective communication.

David Grossman uses powerful storytelling and practices he’s seen in action for notable clients worldwide in his latest book “No Cape Needed.”

photo courtesy of yourthoughtpartner.com

photo courtesy of yourthoughtpartner.com

His tips come to life with vivid imagery and examples while using his own advice in the text. Although it will be a great addition to your collection, it’s not one that should sit on a shelf after a first read. It is a resource to help you master the power of effective communication on a daily basis.

No Cape Needed is available online at www.yourthoughtpartner.com/no-cape-needed and on Amazon.

What are your latest reads? Share below.

 

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Jasmine C. Tate 

Inspiring Future Entrepreneurs

While “Retaining Inspiration” last week, I discovered notes from the first guest blog post I wrote for the University of Alabama’s PRSSA Chapter.

The blog was a recap of one of my favorite sessions of the PRSSA 2016 Regional Conference targeting aspiring entrepreneurs. In the session Rick Looser, president and chief operating officer of the Cirlot Agency in Jackson, MS, provided Seven Tips on Entrepreneurship as a Young Professional. Check out the blog and some "Real World" exclusive quotes below. 

 "It’s not enough to love flowers… You’ve got to hate weeds."
 "Money doesn’t make you anything but more of who you are."
 "Become memorable to the people that matter."
 "Be an excessive note writer; nothing replaces a personal note."
 "Don’t let the urgent overtake the important."

Following the session, I met Looser and had the opportunity to visit Cirlot for a PRSSA Agency Tour.

Left: Looser and I at the PRSSA 2016 Regional Conference in Tuscaloosa, AL. Right: Deonica Davis, Cirlot Graphic Designer,  D'Anthony Jackson, PRSSA Member, Lauren Neighbors, Cirlot Public Relations Strategist, and I gather in the lobby prior to a USM PRSSA Tour. 

Left: Looser and I at the PRSSA 2016 Regional Conference in Tuscaloosa, AL. Right: Deonica Davis, Cirlot Graphic Designer,  D'Anthony Jackson, PRSSA Member, Lauren Neighbors, Cirlot Public Relations Strategist, and I gather in the lobby prior to a USM PRSSA Tour. 

Are you pursuing entrepreneurship? What is the best advice you've received? Share below. 

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Jasmine C. Tate  

Retaining Inspiration

Public relations and communications organizations provide many resources to help their members achieve success. While networking and building relationships with new and seasoned professionals are my favorite elements of membership, there is a priceless value for the inspiration provided from being surrounded by others who have a passion for the industry you love and a genuine desire to impact it and the world.

As I organized documents from the Public Relations Student Society of America and Public Relations Association of Mississippi events this year, I became motivated again by the words of several speakers.

Here are eight golden nuggets to embrace this week. Enjoy!  

“A true professional  doesn’t do what they do to make money; they make money because they do what they do.”

-          Jon Williams, Professional Speaker   

“Find something that you’re passionate about and have the passion to do it.”

-          Rick Looser, Chief Operating Officer | Cirlot Agency

“Work hard, pray hard, and when the door opens, walk through it.”

-         Dr. John E. Forde, Professor and Head of the Department of Communication | Mississippi State University

“Career is very important, but its only one piece of who you are; do something to invest in yourself every day.”

-          Paula Kerger, President and Chief Executive Officer | PBS

“Everything we do is more impactful if we do it together.”

-          Megan Burkes, Associate Director for Public Relations and Donor Programs | The University of Southern Mississippi Foundation

“Apply understanding before you start talking.”

-          Bruce Andrews, Deputy Secretary of Commerce | US Department of Commerce

“The only time you look in your neighbor’s bowl is to make sure they have enough.”

-          Louis C.K.

-          Referenced by Jacqueline Lee, Editor | Dime Entertainment

“All of our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.”

-          Walt Disney

-          Referenced by Marshall Ramsey, Editorial Cartoonist | The Clarion-Ledger

What are some of your favorite scriptures, quotes or advice you live by? Share below.

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Jasmine C. Tate 

Quarterly Review

Each week I get more excited as I review analytics of my blog and discover new and returning visitors. “Welcome to the Real World” is near the end of the infamous “probationary period,” and I am beyond grateful for the support I have received thus far.

In celebration of its upcoming three-month anniversary, I would like to reflect on some of my favorite posts and request feedback for the future of the blog.

It all began on Thursday, April 14 and continued with weekly content. After launching, I began to reflect on my academic career throughout the last five years.

I’ve shared the professionals who have motivated me and helped me achieve success. I’ve shared tips for “Narrowing Focus,” reasons to pursue graduate studies and the emotional roller coaster of earning a master’s degree and the job search process. I’ve shared my journey, personal insights and quality advice gained along the way.

The Wait,” “A Trip Down Memory Lane,” and “The Secret to Success… Revealed” reached record numbers of viewers and engagement.

This blog has provided motivation to remain connected with the public relations industry and emerging trends. It has also given me an outlet to express my thoughts and share advice and inspiration with others.

My favorite post of them all is “The Secret to Success… Revealed” because I discovered a revelation in the process.

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Jasmine C. Tate 

Narrowing Focus

Each year thousands of students pursue degrees in public relations hoping to be the next Samantha Jones or Olivia Pope.  After discovering the profession, my goal was to earn a degree and become a practitioner.

“You can’t find a job in public relations by searching Monster.com.”
-          Joseph Mirando, PhD. , Professor, Southeastern Louisiana University

Dr. Mirando drilled this into my head throughout my undergraduate career. When expressing my desire to work in public relations, most people ask what that entails. The public relations profession uses simple yet strategic practices for a large variety of responsibilities. In addition, there are many different directions and disciplines you can take.  Three elements to consider:

1.      Corporate vs. Agency

2.      Public vs. Private

3.      Industry

Credit: Aldos80

Credit: Aldos80

As I worked to gain experience in a number of ways, I was able to evaluate my skills and interests to change my response when asked about my career aspirations. 

I once answered “I want to be a public relations professional.” My answer now is: “My long-term career goal is to become the community relations director for a professional sport's team.”

That reply often prompts greater discussion, but it is much more focused. My passions for service and sports merge through the role of a community relations professional. While that concept is simple, I took a much more strategic approach to narrowing my interest. There are several ways to discover the best fit for you in the communications or public relations industries. I wanted to share the process I took to discover my desire to become a community relations director and begin my pursuit of success as a professional.

What you need

-          Experience (volunteer experience, internships, jobs, class projects, etc.)

-          Legal notepad/ writing paper

-          Writing utensil

Instructions

-          Find a quiet area with a limited possibility of distractions.

-          Identify your passions and solid skills.

-          Think about your previous experiences.

-          Make three lists.

1.      Things you like about each experience

2.      Things you don’t like about each experience

3.      Things that will be required as an industry standard

-          Compare your lists to gauge the industries, roles and responsibilities of positions that align with your passions, interests and skills.

Note: This method can also be completed on a computer. Use the most comfortable tools for you. 

Although I didn’t complete this process until the start of my last semester of graduate school, it can be applied earlier in your academic career and allow greater opportunities to gain experience and connections. Even after you narrow your focus, always be open to other possibilities.

Are you a public relations professional or aspiring practitioner? What steps did you take to narrow your focus? Are you struggling with which PR path to take? Try my method. Please share your results.

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Jasmine C. Tate